“ Fake friends generally demand something from you but give you nothing in return.
People may get into poisonous friendships just like they can go into toxic love relationships.
“You’re the one carrying the friendship, and the buddy isn’t.
Leeds points out that false friends do not have your best interests at heart and “see the connection from the standpoint of what they can obtain from you rather than a position of real concern for you,” rather than being a reciprocal friendship.
15 signs of fake friends:
1. They are friends with sunny weather.
Is there a way for this person to appear when it is beneficial to him, but disappear when he really needs it? They may come to your party so that they can establish contact, but when you encounter difficulties, there is nowhere to be found. Liz said that this behavior is a false friend.
2. They aren’t looking out for you.
Similarly, Núñez said that if there are few friends by your side when you encounter difficulties, then they may be false friends. In their eyes, providing emotional support by their side will do them no good. When they really “support” you, it feels shallow and unreal.
3. They always appear to want assistance from you.
Fake friends tend to approach or meet only when they want or need something from you, Liz explained. One day, when they text you to ask how you are doing, you may be surprised, but the next day you are told that they have applied for your vacancy and want you to speak for them.
4. They’re in a rivalry with you.
Leeds and Nuñez pointed out that fake friends can be very competitive because of jealousy. They may always try to ignore you in a conversation, whether it’s one-on-one or in a group environment, or they usually want to behave better than you.
5. You feel awful about yourself because of them.
A fake friend will not promote you as a real friend. Liz said that when you are with this person, “you can feel unsafe, used or judged.” Sometimes you don’t even have to say it explicitly, but you can certainly feel their judgment or disapproving expression.
6. They don’t join you in your celebrations.
When it comes to their victories, achievements, and successes, not only will fake friends not participate in the celebrations, but Núñez explains that they might even downplay them. “They can use their celebration to oppose you, belittle you, or belittle you, saying, ‘It’s not a big deal. Anyone can do this.’
7. They deplete your vitality.
Pay attention to how you feel when you are with this person and how you feel afterward. Are they smoking you? Liz said that time spent with fake friends can be exhausting or focus too much on them. “These clear signs show that if you want to continue the friendship, you need to make an important change”,
8. They gossip behind your back about you.
Of course, this person can be harder to spot, depending on how careful this person is that you talk to. However, if you hear a so-called “friend” spreading rumors or lies about you, or just trash in general, Núñez says that he is not a true friend.
9.They haven’t said anything to you.
You don’t have to be reserved behind your back when you speak ill of yourself. Some people will say something directly in person, with little regret. Núñez said that if they usually have a negative attitude towards you and have nothing to say about you, it is a huge red flag. After all, true friends should like each other and show it.
10.They have no regard for others.
“Because fake friends don’t invest in your happiness, they are more likely to be harmed, for example, by not respecting your limits,” Liz said. Whether they hate you or don’t openly respect your limits and needs, show that they don’t really care about you.
11. Friendship is a one-way street.
Nuñez said that false friendships are often one-sided, false friends often put an emotional burden on you but never provide support when you need it.
12.They might be able to obtain something from you.
One of the signs of fake friends is what they want from you. “Being your friend, they use you to get something,” Núñez said. “It can be to gain social status, get a job or make friends with friends, whatever is good for you.”
13. They are envious of you in some ways.
“There is latent jealousy of false friends,” said Núñez. They want to be your friends because they can get something from you, “but there is this potential for jealousy, they don’t want you to do too well,” he added.
14.They’re attempting to eliminate you
Similar to competitiveness, fake friends may feel the need to destroy you in some situations. Suppose you flirt with a stranger outside a bar with a friend. This type of friend may take the initiative to ask you to say something embarrassing to stop your potential suitor.
15. Their actions are predictable.
Finally, if this behavior shows no signs of stopping, it’s a big red flag. Núñez pointed out that if “this person does all kinds of things over and over again that show they are not good friends,” you can be sure that you are dealing with a false friend.